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Have you ever dreamt that you are lost, your teeth are falling out or you are caught in a natural disaster? All your dreams have meaning, and here are the top four dreams you may have - and what they really mean.

1. Lost: A very common dream theme for women is one about being lost. Lost dreams can come in many varieties. One example is, you dream of misplacing your phone or other possession.

In the dream, you may be looking everywhere for it, feeling anxious and stressed. If it is not a possession that is lost, it could actually be you that is lost. Have you ever dreamt that you got turned around in an unfamiliar place and could not find your way back to where you started?

We can also dream about losing loved ones, which can range from getting separated from your partner in a crowd, to dreaming of someone close to you dying.

As with all dreams, the most important thing to pay attention to is your emotions or mood. What are the emotions of the dream, as well as once you immediately wake up? If you dream of losing your phone, and you wake up feeling anxious, nervous and unsettled, consider the metaphor of the phone. For some, our phones are practically our entire world encapsulated in digital format, we always have it in our hand or nearby, and the thought of losing it can be devastating.

The phone as a dream symbol could be something we hold dear, something we hold close, and something we have fear of losing, possibly even our own sense of self.

If you dream of being physically lost in an unfamiliar place, consider this as a metaphor that you may feel lost in your life direction. Is there a higher life purpose you have not uncovered? A new direction you should be taking?

2. Nightmares: All dreams are inextricably intertwined with our emotions, but our strongest emotions present in the form of nightmares. The primary component of a nightmare is that emotionally we are scared or disturbed by the dream story that unfolds. Common nightmare themes include being chased, experiencing a natural disaster or drowning.

Dreams are reflections of our inner emotions and conflict. Nightmares are an expression of our deepest concerns and fears. When our waking emotions are high with fear or anxiety, this usually carries over to the dream state. Nightmares speak to our desire to balance all of the pressures of life with our own personal needs.

Nightmares can occur at any time in a woman’s life where there is turmoil. In adolescence, there can be considerable stress as a young woman attempts to mould her identity, gain acceptance of her peers and define herself within her own world. Dreaming that someone or something is after you is very common in childhood, be it monsters or an unidentifiable dark figure.

As a young woman grows into adulthood, our identity is more defined, although still evolving, and some of these nightmares may decrease. However, they are likely replaced by nightmares of a different theme, as the pressures of life shift and as circumstances evolve upon the evolution of one’s life path.

Women commonly also have dreams of drowning or of natural disasters such as a tornado, flood or tsunami. All of these themes speak to a waking state of emotional overwhelm. These dreamers literally feel like they are surviving a metaphorical storm, keeping their metaphorical head above water, and struggling against greater metaphorical natural forces they cannot control.

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3. Recurring dreams: Sometimes our dream stories play on repeat. The theme might change in small ways, but the overarching dynamic of the dream keeps occurring over and over. Recurring dreams always mean there is a dream message you are not receiving. Our dreams derive all of their content from our subconscious mind. They create a synergistic story weaved from every experience we have ever had. Although they may appear coincidental, anecdotal or random, they are not.

If you are experiencing a recurring dream, it is a sign that there is something in your life that needs attention. What that particular thing is, completely depends on the metaphorical content of your dream. The best way to unlock your dream code is to write down everything you can remember upon waking. Details are important. Emotions, symbols, people, colours, are all clues into the hidden message of the dream. Consider everything you record as a metaphor for your waking life.

4. Self-Confidence: There are several very common dreams women can also have that can be grouped under the theme of confidence. These dreams can appear in many different forms but they usually involve being unprepared, being late, taking a test, finding yourself naked in public, public speaking or dreaming that your teeth are falling out.

All of these dreams are metaphors for your sense of inner confidence. Finding yourself unprepared for a test, can often mean you are feeling insecure about your abilities, questioning your own inner knowledge and ability to achieve.

If you dream of being late, you may fear deep down, that you may be missing your chance at actualising your potential. If you dream of finding yourself short of all your clothes in public, speaking in front of an audience or experiencing your teeth falling out, these are all metaphors for insecurity.

Many women fall into the trap of using a dream dictionary which only provides a limited generic explanation or one or more of the small parts of their dream, a boat for example or a pen. These explanations could very well lead the dreamer away from the real message of their dream. To capture the real message, we need to consider all of the elements of the dream together, as a story, a story told in our own unique dream language. Self-improvement and personal growth can be greatly enhanced by directly engaging with our dream stories.

When we remember our dreams, we begin to access a relationship with our subconscious that can help us evolve and grow. The more we harvest this synergy, the greater potential we uncover. Once we achieve regular dream recall, we can actually go a step further, and enter into the realm of active dreaming, which can include knowing we are dreaming, known as lucid dreaming, as well as creatively influencing the direction and content of our dreams.

These advanced dream techniques are proven to dramatically increase self-confidence in our waking life. When we can attain agency in our own dreams, our waking lives will also benefit.

Megan Mary is a dream interpreter that specialises in the analysis of women’s dreams to promote transformative personal growth. She is an intuitive introvert, mystic, writer and wellness enthusiast. She lives in Idaho with her husband and two cats. Find out more:



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